Mary Ellen

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Isabel asked me to post this on the blog about her friend Mary Ellen Mark.

Lori Barra, Mary Ellen Mark, Isabel Allende & Ina Bernstein in New York Christmas 2014 © Nicole Frias

Lori Barra, Mary Ellen Mark, Isabel Allende & Ina Bernstein in New York Christmas 2014
© Nicole Frias

Today I say goodbye to a beloved friend, and extraordinary artist, the renowned photographer Mary Ellen Mark. In the short time we knew each other, I came to love her deeply and now I regret that I never told her so.

Mary Ellen was a force. And I admired every breath of that strong, courageous, gutsy energy she had.  She demanded  much of  her friends and her students, but she demanded of herself much more.  She expected nothing less than perfection from her work every single day. And she achieved that.

She believed deeply in the humanity in each of us and in the ever-loving healing power of all dogs, big and small. I still wish I could have brought my high-maintenance pup, Dulce, to meet her in NY. They would have loved each other.

She observed and listened with her whole being. Through her work, Mary Ellen Mark taught her students and friends to pay attention to the world with an open heart. She gave each person she photographed back the precious gift of seeing themselves with compassion. The photographs she took of my family in December are among my greatest treasures. We were unaware of it that day in the studio but she saw something in each of us and in our relationship to each other that is only now becoming clear to me. She saw and touched our souls. Not to mention we all look like movie stars; I don’t know how she achieved that miracle. In a decade or so my grandchildren will appreciate these pictures as an important part of their legacy, something to cherish forever. I am sure they will remember that Sunday photo shoot with much gratitude. And in two decades or so, when Willie and I will not be in this world, my descendants will look at Mary Ellen’s photographs and think that they had very interesting grandparents.

Family Portrait and Isabel Allende ©Mary Ellen Mark

Family Portrait and Isabel Allende ©Mary Ellen Mark 2015

I so often hear Lori, my daughter-in-law, say that Mary Ellen believed in her and through her generous teachings gave her back her creative voice. For Lori, who attended Mary Ellen’s workshops every year, that has been one of the greatest gifts of her life.

Mary Ellen Mark  lived fully with passion and humor and grace until her last day on earth. We, the privileged ones that got to participate in her unique world of images and stories, will love her forever.

Isabel

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Mary Ellen, Isabel and Ina

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Lori, Ina, Mary Ellen and Jodi

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Ina, Isabel and Mary Ellen in New York October 2012

7 Responses to Mary Ellen

  1. Miguel Ángel November 10, 2015 at 3:23 pm #

    Hola, Isabel:
    Espero que estes bien.
    Si alguna vez pasas por Sevilla (Andalucía, España), me gustaria invitarte a un café y a un rato de añoranzas. No soy escritor ni pretendo serlo. Ni periodista. Tan solo es uno de mis escasos sueños.¿Eres libre para hacerlo? ¿Puedes hacerlo? ¿Quieres hacerlo? Cuídate mucho y se feliz.

  2. Miguel Ángel November 10, 2015 at 3:18 pm #

    Hola, Isabel:
    Espero que estés bien.
    Si alguna vez pasas por Sevilla (Andalucía,España), me gustaría invitarte a un café y a un rato de añoranzas. No soy escritor ni pretendo serlo. Ni periodista. Tan solo es uno de mis escasos sueños.¿Eres libre para hacerlo? ¿Puedes hacerlo? ¿Quieres hacerlo?

  3. Ana Torres May 29, 2015 at 12:10 pm #

    Buenas tardes, mi nombre es Ana y soy de Santiago de Compostela, (Galicia), España.
    Desde hace más de diez años cada mañana tomo café con mis amigas. Estamos media horita cada día, a veces más, y durante el tiempo que dura nuestro café nos morimos de risa, es el momento del día más divertido.
    Las cuatro personas que componemos nuestro café mañanero adoramos a Isabel Allende, nos leímos todos sus libros, y no sé por qué siempre sale en nuestras conversaciones. Yo tengo un blog que se llama tiendamamapata.blogspot.com y muchísimas veces hablo de Isabel como si perteneciese a nuestro grupo de café, porque estoy segura de que le encantaría.
    Hoy he encontrado su página, y justamente hoy terminé de leer por tercera vez La Casa de los Espíritus.
    Solamente quería invitarla a mi maravillosa ciudad, y a mi divertido café mañanero, y darle las gracias por hacerme ver la vida maravillosa después de leer sus libros.
    Un saludo.
    Ana Torres.

    • Claudia June 4, 2015 at 8:14 am #

      Que pena que no reconozca la corrupción en chile, que triste que usted viva tan alejada de la realidad, la misma mandataria lo reconoce y su propio hijo es el corrupto.

    • Sarah Kessler June 21, 2015 at 4:55 pm #

      Ana! I will make sure Isabel sees your comment it is very sweet and I hope your coffee time is still going strong.
      That sounds so fun.
      Much love from California.
      Sarah

  4. Yaneisy Aranguren May 27, 2015 at 7:08 pm #

    Beatiful words, I am sorry for your lost.

  5. Marina alderete May 27, 2015 at 6:42 pm #

    lo siento mucho…perdida grande para ti y sus familiares

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